Courtship confessions
// July 6th, 2009 // No Comments » // Unveil
Steaming moments
I admit that the process of courtship is by far the best moment of an entire relationship. This is where most of the silly and steaming moments come from. Isn’t it amazing that out of billions of people in the world, just how the hell can two parties have the exactly same feelings for each other? It feels funny when you realized that you are into someone. It is just unexplainable.
It is fairly easy to spot if one is into someone. The sudden change in behavior is one obvious indicator. This behavior is excreted in the earliest stages of a courtship. One will act out of the ordinary, mainly to advertise with the intention to impress. Among his friends, he will talk slightly louder to advertise his presence, and act maturely to impress. This behavior can especially be observed during sports where he will yell at his mates on tactics and on how things should be played (advertising), and then plays aggressively, squeezing every ounce of skill, and usually tries to score (impressing). These are obvious indicators of “I’m in love”.
Once she has accepted his presence, things will usually get steamy. To be honest, this is the most enjoyable process in the entire courtship. Once both parties are communicating, he will be happy as he is no longer a stranger to her. Simple things that she does, will get him all steamed up. For example, she comments on how cute that his left eye is smaller than his right eye. Thereafter, he will always at his best, look at her at an angle just so that she can clearly see his cute eyes. Another scenario would be him offering her some cookies. As she puts her hand into the bag to retrieve the cookie, his heart beat increases as he hardens. The minute she bites on the cookie, he will be in a whole new world. To take it to the extreme, he will probably have that cookie bag sealed air tight, trying to preserve her touch just so that he could hug that bag to sleep as though hugging her. Sympathy inflicted scenario can also be applied where he injured his finger and conveniently shows it to her while displaying excessive facial expression of pain, when in actual fact, the pain is peanuts. Out of good nature, she will hold that finger and shows that she understand his pain. With such outcome, this injury can be deemed worth injuring for. Why would such simple actions from her puts him in such a trance? Perhaps this can be regarded as an acceptance by her, by way of acknowledging his presence or the acceptance of the courtship.
Beyond this, there will be lots of teasing, chatting, phone calling, bed rolling and giggles. This will also be the stage where he will have the guts to ask her out for a date, indirectly via her friends. It will usually turns out to be a group date where a group of his friends be with a group of her friends. At this stage, things are still raw, any forms of direct or indirect physical contact are avoided due to lack of confidence. An example would be his male friends will be able to stand closely next to her with their arms over her shoulder, but not him. For he, will be standing next to her with a gap that an elephant could get through, and his hands in the pockets.
As he gets more confident of the whole situation, he will request for a one-to-one date. Here, he will try to stay close to her, walking no further from her by 5cm, closing the gap by millimeters if she doesn’t widens it. He will then, attempt every opportunity to make light physical contact. A few techniques like brushing his arms through her arms by way of accidental scenario and lightly touching her waist directing her to be cautious of some insignificant hazards ahead. If those touching are not being reported nor rejected, it is a sign that he has been accepted. He may then ask her to be his girl and he would be likely to succeed.
Bloopers
As mentioned above regarding the sudden change of his behavior, some may finds it a complete nuisance.
Wrong signals can be transmitted wrongly by her. For example, she gave him a t-shirt on his birthday. On that t-shirt, there is a cartoon picture of a guy and a girl kissing each other. He, being totally in love with her will read it as though she is telling him that the girl in the picture symbolizes her, and that the guy symbolize him, when in actual fact, it does not mean shit to her. This is a common error produced by the female counterpart.
There are also times where messages transmitted are not decoded correctly by him, where her caring of him as a friend is being read as privileged treatment. This misconception usually happens when one is so in love with the other, resulting in simple actions being read so detailed till one can say that a banana is so juicy.
Rejections
Courtship may not often ends with a happy ending. It is very common for one to have eaten a lemon during his courtship journey. When this happens, it is as if living has lost its meaning.
When she rejects, the common reason that she could give, is that she has just got out of a relationship and therefore, not ready for another. Worst still, numerous attempts to avoid seeing him. Being rejected is painful. One suffers pain from a broken heart, stabbed egoism and humiliated self-esteem.
What’s next?
As time passes, we all look back in time and realize how silly it was on how we have acted and even lost ourselves back then. For those still within the courtship stages, enjoy it, as beyond is a whole new world.
