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Courtship confessions

// July 6th, 2009 // No Comments » // Unveil

Steaming moments

I admit that the process of courtship is by far the best moment of an entire relationship.  This is where most of the silly and steaming moments come from.  Isn’t it amazing that out of billions of people in the world, just how the hell can two parties have the exactly same feelings for each other?  It feels funny when you realized that you are into someone.  It is just unexplainable.

It is fairly easy to spot if one is into someone.  The sudden change in behavior is one obvious indicator.  This behavior is excreted in the earliest stages of a courtship.  One will act out of the ordinary, mainly to advertise with the intention to impress.  Among his friends, he will talk slightly louder to advertise his presence, and act maturely to impress.  This behavior can especially be observed during sports where he will yell at his mates on tactics and on how things should be played (advertising), and then plays aggressively, squeezing every ounce of skill, and usually tries to score (impressing).  These are obvious indicators of “I’m in love”.

Once she has accepted his presence, things will usually get steamy.  To be honest, this is the most enjoyable process in the entire courtship.  Once both parties are communicating, he will be happy as he is no longer a stranger to her.  Simple things that she does, will get him all steamed up.  For example, she comments on how cute that his left eye is smaller than his right eye.  Thereafter, he will always at his best, look at her at an angle just so that she can clearly see his cute eyes.  Another scenario would be him offering her some cookies.  As she puts her hand into the bag to retrieve the cookie, his heart beat increases as he hardens.  The minute she bites on the cookie, he will be in a whole new world.  To take it to the extreme, he will probably have that cookie bag sealed air tight, trying to preserve her touch just so that he could hug that bag to sleep as though hugging her.  Sympathy inflicted scenario can also be applied where he injured his finger and conveniently shows it to her while displaying excessive facial expression of pain, when in actual fact, the pain is peanuts.  Out of good nature, she will hold that finger and shows that she understand his pain.  With such outcome, this injury can be deemed worth injuring for.  Why would such simple actions from her puts him in such a trance?  Perhaps this can be regarded as an acceptance by her, by way of acknowledging his presence or the acceptance of the courtship.

Beyond this, there will be lots of teasing, chatting, phone calling, bed rolling and giggles.  This will also be the stage where he will have the guts to ask her out for a date, indirectly via her friends.  It will usually turns out to be a group date where a group of his friends be with a group of her friends.  At this stage, things are still raw, any forms of direct or indirect physical contact are avoided due to lack of confidence.  An example would be his male friends will be able to stand closely next to her with their arms over her shoulder, but not him.  For he, will be standing next to her with a gap that an elephant could get through, and his hands in the pockets.

As he gets more confident of the whole situation, he will request for a one-to-one date.  Here, he will try to stay close to her, walking no further from her by 5cm, closing the gap by millimeters if she doesn’t widens it.  He will then, attempt every opportunity to make light physical contact.  A few techniques like brushing his arms through her arms by way of accidental scenario and lightly touching her waist directing her to be cautious of some insignificant hazards ahead.  If those touching are not being reported nor rejected, it is a sign that he has been accepted.  He may then ask her to be his girl and he would be likely to succeed.

Bloopers

As mentioned above regarding the sudden change of his behavior, some may finds it a complete nuisance.

Wrong signals can be transmitted wrongly by her.  For example, she gave him a t-shirt on his birthday.  On that t-shirt, there is a cartoon picture of a guy and a girl kissing each other.  He, being totally in love with her will read it as though she is telling him that the girl in the picture symbolizes her, and that the guy symbolize him, when in actual fact, it does not mean shit to her.  This is a common error produced by the female counterpart.

There are also times where messages transmitted are not decoded correctly by him, where her caring of him as a friend is being read as privileged treatment.  This misconception usually happens when one is so in love with the other, resulting in simple actions being read so detailed till one can say that a banana is so juicy.

Rejections

Courtship may not often ends with a happy ending.  It is very common for one to have eaten a lemon during his courtship journey.  When this happens, it is as if living has lost its meaning.

When she rejects, the common reason that she could give, is that she has just got out of a relationship and therefore, not ready for another.  Worst still, numerous attempts to avoid seeing him.  Being rejected is painful.  One suffers pain from a broken heart, stabbed egoism and humiliated self-esteem.

What’s next?

As time passes, we all look back in time and realize how silly it was on how we have acted and even lost ourselves back then.  For those still within the courtship stages, enjoy it, as beyond is a whole new world.

Under-aged politicians

// March 14th, 2008 // 1 Comment » // Unveil

PENANG: The state Umno will “persuade” the Federal Government to scrap all the mega projects in the state in view of the people’s clear rejection of Barisan Nasional.

Since Penangites do not want development, the Federal Government should not force it on them, said state Umno liaison committee secretary Datuk Azhar Ibrahim.

He said that this was not Penang Umno taking revenge “but we are actually giving the people what they want”.

“They voted for change, so let us see what the DAP can do,” he said after the party’s emergency meeting at Menara Umno yesterday.

Azhar, who is Penaga assemblyman, was appointed the state Opposition Leader at the meeting.

Meanwhile, Umno liaison committee deputy Chief Datuk Abdul Rashid Abdullah hit out at the new administration for its decision not to practice the New Economic Policy (NEP).  [Source: Call to scrap mega projects]

I am sure that you people does know that every actions taken and statement made via the public media doesn’t only affect you alone but the party as a whole.  If what is stated above is true, then in my humble opinion, you are not fit to lead, run, or play the game.  Your actions are not only a portrait of child’s play, but also immature and selfish.  That attitude could be the whole reason for your lost nationwide.

Stopping a major project just because you didn’t capture the heart of the people is a meaningless act and ridiculous.  When campaigning, you promote heavily on how you will serve and such, and when you lost, do otherwise just to let the rage out and take revenge on the people.

The statement “He said that this was not Penang Umno taking revenge but we are actually giving the people what they want” and “They voted for change, so let us see what the DAP can do.” is the stupidest statement of all.  If you really want to prove it that they have made the wrong choice by not choosing you, prove it to them by giving them what the oppositions can’t, strive for excellence and serve an extra mile.  This is how one could capture the heart of another.  The “So, you got yourself a new friend.  That’s fine and oh, regarding the gift that I promised to give you, you can forget about it.  We will see what your new friend will get you.” attitude will get you nowhere but defeats.

Wake up from denial you arrogant bastards.  Oh wait, did the voters just made you lost your income from “other sources”?  No wonder the rage.

Craving for greener grass

// October 24th, 2007 // No Comments » // Unveil

Ever felt that you have the worst of everything compared to others?  Does the food next to you looks and smells better than yours?  Do you think that your peers are having a more interesting job than yours?

We often feel that we do not live up to standards compared to anyone whom you think lives a better live than us.  We see others as an achievement, but never see the light in ourselves.  Consider the following scenario.

Your friend works for a big firm that pays him 3 times your earnings, has the best looking partner in the world, often visits the classiest restaurant in town ordering the most expensive food and changes car every year.

On the other hand, you earn a just right salary, have a not so hot partner, lives in a small apartment no larger than your office’s pantry, surviving solely on food cooked by your partner, and have a little extra left to bring your partner to the movies or to buy a little gift.

From the outlook of it, your friend’s life does make yours look pathetic doesn’t it?  Let’s take a closer look in both situations.  You feel that your job is boring and underpaid, but you leave sharp and do not work late and hence, have plenty of time to spend with whoever you wished to.  You have a not so hot partner, but he/she is your greatest companion who shares the same interest as you and the both of you seldom argue.  Home-cooked food might look dull, but it has been keeping you out of hunger.

As for your friend, he is drawing a very high salary, but at the same time, working 3 times more.  Having minimal time on hand to be spending with his/her partner, their relationships got rocky and arguments often burst out.  For him to be eating out most of the time, it is either because your friend has a partner who is either too lazy to cook, or too dumb to light a fire.  Your friend could be craving for a life like yours, as you gets to get off work early, and has someone who listens to your daily complaints.  You wouldn’t think that a pathetic life like yours is sought after by someone whom you thought to be having a perfect life.

The point here is, everyone have their good and bad sides.  It is true that we have to compare the good sides in them versus the bad side in us to shape us in to a better person, but we all need to see things from a different perspective before deciding what is good and what is bad.

In life, in whatever we do, we must not neglect the most important value in our aspect of life – contentment.  Only with contentment, our achievement can be valued, appreciated, and enjoyed by ourselves.  What is the point of everlasting war trying to achieve all that you want without feeling contented?  Let’s take an example of you, feeling pathetic because you feel that you are not rich enough.  How would you consider yourself rich?  Being listed as one of the top 10 richest tycoon on earth?  Having a total net worth that surpasses every single person on earth?  Or having a lifetime supply of endless money?  If you consider that totally defines rich, then you will be walking an endless road in achieving it.  You could however, take this on a different approach.  It doesn’t matter how much you have in order to be rich, because richness is defined as extras that you do not need.

Although it is never bad to go further in life to achieve the achievable, it would be great if accompanied by appreciation, valuation, and contentment.  Only with those, comes enjoyment and satisfaction in life.

When TM and Streamyx meets me

// July 20th, 2007 // No Comments » // Unveil

CYBERJAYA: Peer-to-peer (P2P) traffic is choking up local broadband lines with 20% of users utilising 80% of the total bandwidth, according to Internet service provider (ISP) TM Net Sdn Bhd. Dr Fadhullah Suhaimi Abdul Malek, general manager of TM Net’s corporate and strategy services, said “As the number of local broadband subscribers increases, more users are expected to use P2P applications such as Kazaa and BitTorrent to transfer files online.  Such applications are often left on all day so they use much more bandwidth compared to users who merely use the Internet to surf or chat.  Other countries with high broadband penetration also faced similar problems because broadband users have a tendency to abuse bandwidth. We are not against our customers using P2P.  However, it is an unfair situation which needs to be addressed, as we cannot upgrade our infrastructure (merely) for the benefit of the minority.”  [Source: TM Net: P2P traffic clogging broadband]

What a good way to deny all allegation made on slow bandwidth.  Well TM, you advertised unlimited data transfer and usage time and we signed up on that.  Now that you couldn’t deliver what you promised, admit it, do something about it and don’t put the blame on us for sucking up all the bandwidth.  Abusing the bandwidth you say?  What is there to abuse when it’s ours to use?  It’s not a free service we are using, we are paying for it, remember?  Technology is about improving and moving forward in order to make today’s world an obsolete world to live in.

Furthermore, this company really needs to upgrade their support people.  These guys in support are either untrained or not qualified at all.  Whatever questions I popped out at them, the first and foremost or maybe the only thing that they were taught, is to tell you to switch of all powers and disconnect all cables connecting to your modem and router, wait for 10 minutes, and then try reconnecting.  If that didn’t work, please call back.  Sure enough I will have to call back telling them that their excellent advice didn’t work.  Next, you will be told to recheck your login details, and some DNS settings and yada yada yada.  By the end of the day, if nothing fruitful comes out of it, they will have their technician over to fix things up.  Perfect, finally someone will be here to fix my connection, in like 5 days?

Feeling frustrated and nowhere to turn to, I resolve to the most practical and reliable support in the world.  Community forums and search engines via the most reliable 56k connection.  Within the time span of an hour, I managed to go online on my Streamyx.  It seems that the problem lies within the configuration of my modem where I would need to change the VCI value.

Knowing where my problem lies, I decided to give TM support a call to further test their level of usefulness.  I told them the problem could be the VCI value being incorrect.  No matter how I argued, all they could do or were taught to do is to tell all their customers to stick with default settings.  HELL, IT WAS THE DEFAULT SETTINGS THAT GOT ME CALLING YOU PEOPLE!  Don’t teach me what to do unless you know what to do.  In the end of the day, I certify them useless.

In a survey done among all my friends and colleagues, the result shows that 90% of them resolved in online troubleshooting and solving matters pertaining to Streamyx.  The remaining 10% got their problem solved through TM because of faulty telephone lines and wiring issue.  In general, TM support staffs are only good when there is a faulty telephone line or wiring that needs to be changed or repaired.

You excelled because you monopolised.

Lone dining a taboo?

// June 26th, 2007 // No Comments » // Unveil

Have you ever had your days where you have to eat alone, be it lunch or dinner?  You do have a high egoism for saying “No”.  Have you forgotten the days where you have to take-out because none could make it for a meal with you?

In my survey conveyed among my friends, it was concluded that most of us finds it hard to dine alone as they are usually too embarrassed and lonely, hence leading to either buying their meals back to their home, or rather starve than to eat alone.

Embarrassment often happen when you were seen eating alone.  This happens when u tend to think what other people will think when they see you in that situation.  The most common thought that comes in to mind, is that you are dining alone because you are so pathetic that no one wants to dine with you, or simply because you do not have a friend.

For those who are afraid to dine alone, maybe you could try what I myself have done.  Speaking based on experience, there were times where I had to dine alone due to schedule clashes during studies.  I flipped out my favourite magazine, plug in my mp3 player, and be in my own world munching my favourite food.  It’s a way to make yourself occupied and to project yourself as someone who chose to dine alone because you wanted some privacy.  I too, tried going to the movies and even hang around one my usual cafes just to chill, have some time to my self and taking a break from my friends.  The results?  Fantastic.  You would definitely crave for it after the first experience.

If you cannot change the fact that you have to dine alone, then change the way people perceive you as if there is a “Do not disturb” sign signifying that you want to be alone for now.

Lunching blues

// May 21st, 2007 // No Comments » // Unveil

Working hard is a value that everyone should have.  However, we are all humans and not androids.  Your brain and body needs resting.  Even Microsoft Windows comes installed with games.

I often get answers like, “I’ll be eating in my cubicle as I have tonnes of work to finish”, whenever the question “where to proceed for lunch?” comes in to play.  What is the different between working right after lunch, and working while having lunch?  Furthermore, you could incur more time and ends up being non-productive staring and munching at the same time.  These people are losing out big time.

Get a life.  You are actually forgoing quality time that you should have out there.  Lunch hour is not merely a time for a meal.  It’s a break, a good time to socialize, pull strings and talk some cock with your colleagues and anyone up on top.  You could work your arse up the ladder dedicating all your time in it, but by the end of the day, you would end up climbing alone.  Doesn’t that sound pathetic?

If you are given a break, go for it and make full use of it.  For the firm, you are nothing but a disposable asset that can be replaced easily, but for you, your most invaluable assets are actually your colleagues who have been working with you all these while.  So, why the hell would you want to go all gung-ho for your firm?  As if by sacrificing an hour of lunch would generate double profits for them.

If you need to work, you work.  If you need to eat, you eat.  Don’t make your workplace in to a nightmare.

Foreign accent a necessity?

// April 9th, 2007 // No Comments » // Unveil

Language accent defines the character, attitude and origins of one using it.  However, it is not something that anyone could pick up.  It involves years of usage, usually from young.  Here, I will be referring to the most used language in the world, English.

This language has its own uniqueness.  It has its own nature, blended out from your culture, people and style.  However, for some strange reason, it has been broken down in to 2 categories; conversing and singing.  I believe there is a difference between conversing understandable English, and singing English.  I view understandable English, as a common communication tool, used by common people to translate messages among each other.  You can however, find weird people who sings the language.

Instead of using it to communicate, these group of weirdoes sings out the language either to: 1) tell the world that he/she had been to a place so far away to the extend of who knows where, or 2) telling the world that he/she is speaking “proper” English, trying to prove that his/her English is far more superior.  Some might even give you the reason that if we do not speak the way the people does in their country, they wouldn’t be able to understand us.  Now, that statement amazing isn’t it?  You do not hear foreign people speak like us, but yet we understood what they say.  The list can go further, but I guess you’ve already know what the list will be.

Most of these weirdoes consist of people who are lucky enough to get thrown abroad for either studies or work.  Having spoken their home English since they were young, probably for 20 over years, they have the tendency and the ability to “forget” the way he /she used to talk.  That is incredible isn’t it?  How the hell can you forget something which you have used for over 20 years, but remember things that you picked up 2 years ago?  It doesn’t tally at all.

If you think that you are able to impress people by singing, you are wrong.  You are just simply annoying the people around you, at least to me.  On the contrary, if people around you are somehow impressed by the way you sing, which is a miracle, it only signify that you are in a group of weirdoes and communicates through singing!

The point is, if your English is good, no matter where you are, even if you are speaking in the lousiest aboriginal accent, it can be understood.  There is no need for you to go “hoola foola” all over.